Certainty or Accuracy: Comment
From one of my Quick Communique: Points to Ponder newsletter:
So many people come from a position of certainty.. when it’s really personal opinion, their perception of what they saw or heard. They can be sure.. but without accuracy or evidence..
A lot of conflict comes from unbending certainty – especially when one of the people know the logic is flawed or facts indicate something else.
When was the last time you looked past the words and thought through, for yourself, the accuracy of someone’s statement? We can speak with authority on what we believe strongly in ….. and others may believe it is fact. You may think “Well they were positively absolutely sure about what they were talking about.”
There are certain personality types that will always come across as strong and certain. There are other types that come across as meek and flexible. With the above logic, those people that are not forceful in their words are not accurate in their statements? Personality types play a major factor in the intensity of certainty and accuracy.
I have found that people will toss around statements – and they talk with authority – yet when asked “how do you know that?” they clam up. Have we become so accustomed to talking without thinking – and more importantly – listening and accepting without challenging – that we are now a surface-thinking society?
Contact Shari for more information on this topic; she offers seminars to help you understand this topic more thoroughly.
It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it
Tags: aggressive leaders, behavioral styles, certainty, communication, critical thinking, emotional intelligence skills, leadership, misrepresentations, personality types, socratic thinking