When we disagree with someone, our initial instinct is to push, push harder, push louder, push push PUSH!!!! The more resistance we encounter, the more we push, the more we stand firm, the more we believe our viewpoint is the right viewpoint and should be the only viewpoint.
I found this on Innovation Rainmakers
Using reverse psychology on contrary people generates the required response by using their natural tendency to resist. Also, utilize contrary people to find flaws in a project idea to get a list of problems to solve.
How very true! If we would switch our thinking and present an idea 180 degrees from what we were saying, from what we believe, the other person may spout out what we have been telling them.
We can get so wrapped up in the adrenaline rush in debating or arguing that we don’t realize what we are saying … we simply know that we disagree with the other person and will state the opposite. If you are a Type A person, or one that needs to be in control of situations, this reaction could come naturally and unconsciously.
So how do you handle the people that enjoy arguing or simply taking the opposite position? First of all, take a few deep breaths. That will get oxygen to your brain, allow the heated emotions to dissipate and give you a few moments to actually hear and process what they said. Then you can decide the course of action you consciously choose to take.
I challenge you to then ask yourself two questions: Is this topic worth a heated debate and possibly saying something you may regret? And what questions can you ask them to justify their position and slow down their thought processes?
It isn’t what you said, it’s what they think they heard.