Many of the seminars I give deal with communication styles, emotional intelligence skills, leadership, listening and building teams.In a recent seminar, the discussion was centered around whether you have a need to be in control or are you happy being more flexible.
One gentleman was vocal throughout each break that several years ago his assessment result was closer to the ‘in control’ highpoint than it is now. Since he’s been moved to a job he doesn’t like and was stripped of his control, he’s more on the ‘flexible’ side.
What I believe happened was that he responded to the questions how he thought he should answer, not necessarily how he is in everyday reality. In doing that, he remained in control, at least in this area.
He changed his reality to match his perception.Yet his reality shone through.
It’s wasn’t what he said, it’s what I think I heard.