In a rerun of the TV Reality Show Deal or No Deal episode, Howie told the contestant: The banker wants you to have your dream because his dream is to get you out of here.

Usually Howie tells the contestant that the banker wants the contestant to leave with the least amount of money. The banker usually does not mention anything positive about what the contestant wants or will leave with.

What dream does the banker think you want? Is your version of ‘your dream’ the same as the banker’s version of  ‘your dream’?  Is that a contradiction, or simply a benevolent banker?

Now on to your communication:  How many times do you say something, and really it’s only part of your thought process. You don’t “tell the why” of your statement. Others may not know your true intentions. Or the rationale behind your actions.

When we don’t make our thinking visible, we run the risk of our message being mis-interpreted.  Remember, even though you are with other people discussing the same issue, your statements can indeed be perceived erroneously.

Remember, it isn’t what you thought you said, it’s what they think they heard.